There are different seasons of life. Some are heavier than others, some are lighter. Some come as teachers, some as healers. Some seasons are for yourself and some you live for others.
In each season of life, prioritize your heart and its relationship with its Creator above everything else.
In each season of life, find one way you can draw close to Him and cling to it with all your strength.
In my own life, I’ve found solace in some particular Duas inspired by the Quran and Sunnah at different stages. Most of them are brief yet very comprehensive and easy to memorize. They’ve given me strength in my darkest moments and guidance when I needed it most.
I’m sharing them here with the hope that anyone in a similar stage of life might find comfort in them as well.
1. During student life
Studies can take their toll on your mental and even physical health, especially during exam season. These were the Duas I would often recite to get through high school, college, and university with my sanity intact.
رَبِّ يَسِّرْ وَ لَا تُعَسِّرْ وَ تَمِّمْ بِالْخَيْر
Rabbi yassir wa laa tu’assir wa tammim bil-khayr.
O Allah, make (this) easy for me and do not make it difficult and complete it well.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed and stressed out, I’ve always found the Dua of Prophet Nuh (as) to be very calming.
رَبِّ إِنِّي مَغْلُوبٌ فَانتَصِرْ
Rabbi inni maghlubun fantasir.
My Lord, indeed I am overwhelmed so help me. [54:10]
2. Choosing a career path and major
Deciding which subject you want to pursue for higher studies can be a daunting task because it lays the foundation for your professional life. There are so many options out there and selecting just one or even a few requires considerable thought, research, and prayers.
I found this Dua to be extremely helpful during the decision-making process while choosing my major and university.
اللَّهُمَّ خِرْ لِي وَاخْتَرْ لِي
Allahumma khir li wakhtarli.
O Allah, make it good for me and choose for me. [Tirmidhi]
3. Dealing with mental health struggles
This is a beautiful Dua from the Sunnah to cure depression and anxiety. After every Fardh Salah, place your right hand on your forehead and say:
بِسْمِ اللهِ الذِيْ لا إلٰهَ إِلا هُوَ الرحْمٰنُ الرحِيم اللهُم أَذْهِبْ عَني الْهَم وَالحُزْن
Bsmillahilladhi laa ilaaha illa huwa rrahmaanu rraheem. Allahumma az-hib ‘annil hamma wal huzn.
In the name of Allah, besides whom there is none worthy of worship, the most Gracious, the most Merciful. O Allah! Remove from me worry and depression. [Tabarani]
Stress from work and life in general can really get to you sometimes. It’s normal to feel low or anxious occasionally, but when such feelings persist and hinder your daily functioning, it’s better to seek help from a mental health professional. Find out about how I as a certified life coach and Islamic counselor can help you.
4. Feeling uncertain about the future
When you’re feeling uncertain about the future and have to make a major decision about something potentially life-changing, pray Salat ul Istikharah as well as this Dua:
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ أَنْ تَجْعَلَ كُلَّ قَضَاءٍ قَضَيْتَهُ لِي خَيْرًا
Allahumma inni as’aluka an taj’ala kulla qada’in qadaytahu lee khayran.
O Allah, I ask You to make every decree that You decree concerning me good. [Sunan Ibn Majah]
5. Feeling spiritually low
Faith tends to fluctuate so you might feel low in your Iman and spirituality from time to time. In those moments, make this Dua abundantly:
يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوْبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِىْ عَلَى دِيْنِكَ
Ya Muqallibal-qulub, thabbit qalbi ‘ala deenik.
O Turner of the Hearts! Make my heart steadfast upon Your Religion. [Tirmidhi]
6. Finding the right person
When you’re ready to get married, recite these two Duas from the Quran abundantly to be blessed with a righteous spouse who will be the coolness of your eyes:
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
Rabbana habb lana min azwajina wa dhurriyatina qurrata a’yunni wwaj’alna lil muttaqeena imaama.
Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous. [25:74]
رَبِّ إِنِّي لِمَا أَنزَلْتَ إِلَيَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَقِيرٌ
Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khayrin faqeer.
My Lord, indeed I am, for whatever good You would send down to me, in need. [28:24]
I’ve explained the context and significance of this Dua here: Quranic Dua for Marriage, Employment, & Other Blessings.
7. After getting engaged
Recite this Quranic Dua in the premarital stages, from finding a spouse to getting engaged, for being blessed with good company and wisdom in all of your matters.
رَبِّ هَبْ لِي حُكْمًا وَأَلْحِقْنِي بِالصَّالِحِينَ
Rabbi habb li hukman wa-alhiqnee bissaliheen.
My Lord! Bestow wisdom on me, and join me with the righteous. [26:83]
It’s natural to feel a certain level of anxiety as you go through the process of finding the right person. Whenever you feel worried about what the future will bring, send Salawat upon the Prophet (saw) to soothe your heart.
If you feel your anxiety is getting unmanageable and you need help, my premarital group coaching course offers a complete guide on how to navigate your emotions and create a loving relationship with yourself, with your partner, and above all, with Allah (swt).
8. Getting married
The love between Rasulullah (saw) and his wife Khadijah (ra) is an ideal example for all times. Once you’re married, recite this Dua frequently for everlasting love and happiness in your relationship.
اَلّٰلهُمَّ اَلِّفْ بَيْنِيْ وَ بَيْنَ زَوْجِيْ كَمَا اَلَّفْتَ بَيْنَ مُحَمَّدٍ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَ خَدِيْجَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهَا
Allahumma allif baini wa baina zauji kama allafta baina Muhammadin (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) wa Khadijata (radhiyallahu ta’ala ‘anha).
O Allah, create a strong binding love between me and my husband just as You created a strong binding love between Rasulullah (saw) and Khadijah (ra).
9. Moving into a new home
Shifting from your parents’ home and all that is familiar to you, to living with a new person and joining a new family, brings a lot of changes with it. This Dua is so lovely in its meaning and should be recited frequently as a newlywed.
رَبِّ أَدْخِلْنِي مُدْخَلَ صِدْقٍ وَأَخْرِجْنِي مُخْرَجَ صِدْقٍ وَاجْعَل لِّي مِن لَّدُنكَ سُلْطَانًا نَّصِيرًا
Rabbi adkhilni mudkhala sidqin wa akhrijni mukhraja sidqin waj’allee min ladunka sultanan naseera.
O my Lord, make me enter a rightful entrance and make me exit a rightful exit, and grant me from Your Own a power, favored (by You). [17:80]
10. Balancing different responsibilities
Transitioning from being single and responsible primarily for yourself, to having a husband, home, in-laws, and eventually children to take care of can be challenging, especially in the beginning as you adjust and adapt.
This Dua is phrased beautifully to remind yourself that all of these responsibilities are in fact blessings from the Mercy of Allah (swt). Trust Him to take care of your affairs for you and your troubles will melt away.
للَّهُمَّ رَحْمَتَكَ أَرْجُو فَلَا تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ وَأَصْلِحْ لِي شَأْنِي كُلَّهُ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَا أَنْتَ
Allahumma rahmataka arju fala takilni ila nafsi tarfata ‘aynin wa aslih li sha’ni kullahu la ilaha ila anta.
O Allah! It is Your mercy that I yearn for, so do not abandon me for even the blink of an eye, and rectify for me all of my affairs. None has the right to be worshiped except You. [Sunan Abi Dawud]
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11. Becoming a mom
Motherhood is an amazing journey full of love and joy, and yes, challenges too. From sleepless nights to endless snuggles, every moment is precious. The responsibility of raising a child can be overwhelming sometimes, but the beautiful bond and unconditional love make it all worthwhile.
These are some beautiful Duas from the Quran for being blessed with righteous, healthy children:
رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِنْ الصَّالِحِينَ
Rabbi-habb lee minas-saliheen.
O my Lord! Grant me a righteous (child). [37:100]
رَبِّ لَا تَذَرْنِي فَرْدًا وَأَنتَ خَيْرُ الْوَارِثِينَ
Rabbi laa tadharnee fardan wa anta khayrul wariseen.
My Lord, do not leave me alone and You are the best of inheritors. [89:21]
12. Growing, progressing, and thriving
Whether you’re starting your career or switching jobs, making complex decisions or feeling stuck, struggling in your relationships or feeling connected, this Dua is one of my favorites because it’s so comprehensive and can be recited no matter which stage of life you’re at.
أَللّٰهُمَّ أَصْلِحْ لِىْ دِيْنِىَ الَّذِىْ هُوَ عِصْمَةُ أَمْرِىْ وَ أَصْلِحْ لِىْ دُنْيَاىَ الَّتِىْ فِيْهَا مَعَاشِىْ وَ أَصْلِحْ لِىْ آخِرَتِىَ الَّتِىْ فِيْهَا مَعَادِىْ وَاجْعَلِ الْحَيَاةَ زِيَادَهً لِّىْ فِىْ كُلِّ خَيْرٍ وَّ اجْعَلِ الْمَوْتَ رَاحَةً لِّىْ مِنْ كُلِّ شَرٍّ
Allahumma aslih li deeni alladhi huwa ‘ismatu amri, wa aslih li dunyaya allati fiha ma’ashi, wa aslih li akhirati allati ilayha ma’adi, waj’al al-hayata ziyadatan li fi kulli khayr, wa’l-mawta rahatan li min kulli sharr.
O Allah, rectify for me my religion which is a means of guarding my affairs. And rectify for me the matters of my world wherein is my livelihood. And set right for me my Hereafter on which depends my after-life. And make my life (a source) of abundance for every good and make my death a source of comfort for me protecting me against every evil. [Muslim]
Which of these seasons of life are you experiencing presently? What helps you cope with the demands and challenges of life’s different stages? I would love to hear your views. Comment below to let me know!
Khadija Khan is a wife, mommy, certified life coach, and Islamic counselor. She is passionate about helping Muslim women reach their goals in all areas of life. She writes about things like Islamic spirituality, relationships, parenting, and personal development. Continue Reading…